Midlife Motivation

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Sex Matters

If you had a healthy sex life before the menopause, there is every likelihood you will continue to have a good healthy sex life during and after the menopause.  Mens' masculinity is not measured by their testosterone output and a womens' femininity is not measured by their oestrogen levels. 

Yes, lack of oestrogen may make lubrication more difficult, but gels, creams, HRT and natural remedies for vaginal dryness are there to help.

On a personal note my sex drive depends on how much in love I am at the time. Though still with the same partner, I have fallen in and out of love with him over the years. When I'm in love, nothing could be nicer than sex. On those other times, nothing appeals to me less.

I have had drunken sex, wild passionate sex, speedy sex (when the kids were around) and experimental sex when they weren't. I have had awful sex, tolerable sex and boring sex. The best sex happens when you are in a close relationship and in love with your partner, menopause or not.

Susan Loveday - Editor

Most importantly sex is driven by how we feel about ourselves and our partners.  A few extra pounds and a few wrinkles are more likely the reason women go off sex in midlife.  But it is a waste.  If you think of yourself as a sexual being at any age, then that is what you are.

In later life you can benefit from the oportunities of not worrying about pregnancy, periods, birth control, and a young family being around all the time.

If your sex life has become monotonous try visiting a sex shop together it can be fun.  There are lots of them around.  They are quite respectable places these days in the city and not the back street shops they used to be.  They have some amazing DVD's and sex toys to help you spice things up for you and your partner.

For a more indepth look at sexuality in midlife click on the Related links below.

Tags: HRT, oestrogen, sex